Category: Oni’s Life

2017, Oni's Life

Preparing to relaunch: Where has Oni been?

PERSONAL UPDATE: So how have I been? I’m going to start resurfacing soon here on my blog with new adventures. Ginger Hoesly and I are gonna work together to rebrand and re launch it focused on my music and marketing-loving Los Angeles based life now – which has been a weird ride for sure already. Here’s a selfie I took at a photo shoot I did last weekend:


Day of the Dead makeup by Kahlovera.

I’ll be launching a companion program to my blog here that’ll allow me to help those of you who want my marketing and coaching help in a way that’s fair to me and all of you. I’m really excited about that and I’ve been taking my time with it so that it’s the best work I can offer. Definitely get on my mailing list. because if you just follow me on Facebook they will not show you all my posts unless you click on my profile and select “See First”. (Also follow me on Facebook. For 100% more Oni bullshit.)

Maybe we should have a Facebook hangout where I get you guys drunk to commemorate the reopening of my blog just like I used to do. I miss you guys and it’d be nice to see you all again and party – even if it’s a virtual one.

Migraines are the worst. I have one now.


(Athleta Threadlight Relaxed Mock Neck Tank, Nordstrom/Zella Live-In Leggings, Teva De La Vina Low Boots.)

Relocating across the country is great but ultimately the worst shit I ever had to handle in my life. Every time you think you’ve planned for everything another thing pops up. Maybe I should think of it as running an event and it would be easier. I’m one of those unfortunate women who can run C-Level badassery beyond compare but if something simple like my laundry fucks up I start getting scared. Apparently it’s common for people who have spent so much time working to be like that. One of my VP friends when I worked in Pharma marketing was just like that, too. We laughed at ourselves.

I am hoping the pills kick in so I can go out and run my errands today. I feel like I’ve given so much back east and a location change is just the thing to get me back on track. I want to explore and meet new people.

Soon, I’ll start writing here about my experiences – as soon as I have time to process this new area a bit more. I have so much love for California – just as much love as I have for you guys back east and those of you reading from around the world. My people.

I still don’t know where most things are. I’ve been tying to pick one area of Los Angeles per week and go explore. Sometimes it’s good. Sometimes it’s weird. Sometimes I get threatened by homeless maniacs who want to fight me for my 2/3 drank latte and start throwing chairs at me. (Really happened.)

I’m a bit of an Athleta addict these days so I’ll probably go there to start today. They aren’t paying me to say this. I wish they would because I gave them half of my last got dam paycheck. Why? Unforeseen shit. East coast wardrobe highly not appropriate for west coast weather and corporate culture. It was 45 degrees this AM and 80 something now. I need to get rid of and replace a lot of clothes that don’t work with this climate. Also back east I’d masquerade in dresses that were more frumpy than my actual style. I no longer have to do that. In fact it feels weird and too stand out conservative for the west coast. They really are more casual out here. You can’t not be yourself here.

I also lost too much weight too fast since January. I paid to tailor all of my jeans smaller and I’ve dropped another size or 2 since moving in like – a got dam month. Who would have thought moving your entire life can be stressful? But also veggies in California are just so tasty it’s sometimes hard to eat enough. HURRR. Major first world problem there. It’s just tough to figure out what my body needs when in a new climate when I’d never ever traveled away from the east coast climate before June. I’m almost like a Martian or something.

Things That I Must Get Used To.

Thank you all for your patience while I pick up the shattered pieces of myself (because that’s what a major move is) and reassemble her into the next evolution of weird and positive creativity plus marketing awesome that you all will recognize. I guess it’s time to build a second empire on the west coast that compliments the impact I have on the east coast. If you know me at all did you really see anything less happening? I’m a compulsive builder of things.

The best news this week? I started guitar class again. DEEZ. FN. NOTEZ. 🙂

Guitar class then supermarket with my baby:


PS: To answer the most frequently-asked question: No, I am not interested in running more geek conventions (unless you have the budget to pay me up front.) At this time 2.5 cons on the east coast are enough for me. I’m focusing on music and alternative art events out west. Focusing on my heart and my love.

I miss you all and can’t wait to show you what I mean.

2017, Oni's Life

I’m tapping out for a bit

Hi all,

I haven’t updated this blog in a bit because on a 1 to 10 scale of “How are you doing today?” I am at a -50.

My friends getting sick and dying, I’m working ridiculous hours to pay my bills plus unpaid work on my cons. (No, I don’t get any $ from the cons.) My health is falling apart for over 7 months now which will explain to you why I haven’t posted all that much.


The reason that I start blogging things here and they fizzle out is because I have to keep stopping to focus on the life and con work because both of those things directly and indirectly affect my ability to pay my bills.

I love writing to you. I love sharing my life. I also love helping people feel better and to be better in their lives. But all of my online work I’ve done for free. I actually have paid to do it for free since 2003. That isn’t sustainable. I also realize that I’ve never asked for it before, either.

You have to either enjoy something (and have the free time to devote to it) or get paid fairly in order to do something. I no longer have any free time.

I’m sorry for those of you emailing me asking me for advice or help with your lives or your creative businesses. I can’t help for free like I used to anymore.

I’m taking some time off now to focus on running the most amazing Harry Potter Convention in Baltimore, Maryland. (Come out and see us! It’s going to be our best work yet!)

I’ll be back soon with a new format here – one that likely will be supported by a Patreon or something. I need to solve the problem, “How can I do the awesome stuff people enjoy from me and earn a living wage for it?”

Hey, if you have any suggestions, email me from the top nav bar. This blog has always been for you so your feedback and support is going to dictate what happens next. :)

And do sign up for my mailing list to be alerted for when I relaunch.

2016, Oni's Life

NEW STUFF: New Doctor Who podcast, new Marketing and Life Coach blog focus for 2017

Hi all –

You may have noticed that I haven’t been posting as much as I had before here. There are a few reasons for this.

I have been very busy working on my conventions that my organization, Onezumi Events does in addition to my full time freelance work. You guys know this. It’s also taken a bit longer than I expected – nearly a full year for me to get back to my normal ability to work in Overdrive Mode (my normal state of being) after my eye surgery. It’s impossible to handle everything that I do without being in Overdrive Mode.

I don’t want to go into detail because frankly I am tired of dealing with it, but I’ll just leave it as I may have finally as of 2 weeks ago figured out how to exist with glasses AND contact lenses. It’s pretty annoying to try and life your life when you feel like you have been slapped in the head because your brain can’t decipher what’s going on randomly when you change your eye wear. But I have it now.

I produced over 10 pieces of art in less than a week and for 2 weeks have had no trouble doing what I used to do before I went super blind – but even easier. I did over 47 hours of marketing research and fun with social media data in addition to my day job in another week. So I think it’s say to say that I am back to normal but better. Here is a sampling of only some of the stuff that I’ve been quietly working on behind the scenes:


– Our new (Re)Generation Who Podcast / VideoCast! This will have a launch date quite soon. If you are a Doctor Who fan, you really need to subscribe to our YouTube channel now so that you don’t miss out on the launch. Reviews, celebrity interviews, discussions, and spotlights on Doctor Who projects that you may not know about but need to know about will be here. Hosted by me and featuring recurring co-hosts and yes – even actors from the Doctor Who TV series will be involved. You are gonna love this.

– OnezumiVerse changes: It’s become clear to me that for over 10 years people have been asking me to help them with their lives and careers. You’ll see posts showing up here before 2017 that are Life Coach / Marketing Coach / Tech Review-oriented, like this awesome iPhone case review.

That’s because I am in real life an highly-acclaimed Marketing Manager / Strategist / Whatever you want to call it who really REALLY optimizes / hacks her life so that she can be a high performer. Basically I run shit on Beast Mode and I’ve got the scars to prove it. I’ll be sharing how I managed to get from being so poor that I had to eat out of trash cans to this level – and I’ll share all of my Un-glamorous mistakes so you can avoid those. Hopefully I can help some people better themselves in the same way that I did. This is what a large part of this blog will be in 2017.

You won’t lose the me you’ve come to know.

The Haunted House reviews and all of the popular features are staying, but this blog needs a tighter focus in order for me to remain interested in blogging here.

REAL TALK: I have done theme parks over and over so much that there’s not much interest remaining for me on that topic. I have never had any desire to be a theme park news site and I can’t possibly compete with folks who live in Orlando and get inside tips from their friends who work there before it’s made public.

My Thing has always been my unique voice. I have no desire to just post links to press releases or speculate about roller coaster rumors. Other people do that far better than I ever could.

In order for me to do anything I feel that I must always answer the question, “Do I enjoy this and can I do this better than anyone else? Do I have something to offer that no one else can?”

Well, the things that I do the best are:

1. Running Conventions

2. Marketing and Life Coaching that is accessible for everyone regardless of your economic background

I also kinda rock the haunted house reviews.

Judging by today’s political climate I think this is needed more than ever before. I’ve been considering it for over 10 years because I get so many requests for it. This all started because I got so many questions from my friends that I figured I would just put them online so I don’t have to keep re answering the same questions 8x a week. I’ve started a Facebook group for this on the down low and people are already joining before I’ve released anything.

This is going to be amazing and I think it’s going to help a lot of people. Feel free to email me from the top nav bar on this site to submit a question. I may answer it here in this series.

Thanks to everyone who has followed me since I started building this in 2003. I’ve never been great at focusing on 1 topic, but I finally found 1 topic that I can bring a hell of a lot of unique value to and make endless good content about.

Oh, and I’m also getting ready to open my art shop up again.

In 2017 you will get me, but better. Thank you so much for being there while I went through what ended up being the most bizarre and life-changing year ever. Please pardon our dust here while I prepare for the amazing year ahead!

You guys are the best!

2016, Oni's Life

When you feel like you’ve been in a car accident but you haven’t been; making convention table layouts; guitar practice

I hate going to the podiatrist for exams. Let’s me just say that getting your surgical site examined and messed with is pretty rough. Somehow I feel like all of my joints are angry as if I were in a car accident. He didn’t mess with my shoulders and arms but they hurt? How the hell does that happen? I may have recoiled so badly I hurt myself during the exam.

I’ve finished the anti inflammatories he prescribed and they did pretty much nothing except maybe made it worse so I’m excited to try the second option to see what’s up. (EDIT: I may have had an allergic reaction to my anti-inflammatory medication they prescribed because severe joint pain is listed in it’s side effect. Urg.) I am optimistic. Normally doctors won’t try because it seems too complicated. This guy is trying. Anything that helps me is welcome.

I have a severe bruise on the bottom of my foot from the exam which also makes no sense because the doctor wasn’t that rough. Oh well! I get to limp at work today. I’m so glad it’s summer. Heat makes me feel better.

This week is a busy one. I get to finish off the layout for Intervention 7 and oversee that my staffers get assigned into their sleeping rooms, and that everything else is on track. Normally the event layout is done months earlier but the venue was being significantly remodeled so any layout we could have done earlier would have been wrong.

I’m used to planning events with an ever-changing venue underneath me. Venues being redone is actually pretty common. Because of this the venue had no to-scale map so we had to ask our architect friend Eric to literally make that from scratch for us. You need an accurate map so that you can place tables and not oversell your room.

I may have a free day this weekend to do something fun which will make a total of 3 days this summer that I’ve had time to do that. One of those days, this happened:


Don’t ask me why it looks like he’s molesting my boob.

Now the question is what to choose for this weekend. The answer is often “get some sleep”.

Being an adult is being sleepy all the time and worrying about money is all I’ve been able to figure out.

Anyway, register for Intervention 7. I’ll post my panel schedule quite soon, but you can see the schedule of events here.

EDIT2: After writing all of this I ended up crying in the fetal position from the pain and was told to get in bed.

So I pulled myself together and did it this way:



2016, Oni's Life

Post surgery – I finally feel whole again

As of this week, Oni is back. For real. Hi.

oni red hair glasses

You may have noticed that ever since I started losing my sight in Fall 2015 I pulled back from posting on here. Truly I need to thank my team for helping me during this time because it was one of the worst times mentally and physically for me. In addition to numerous health problems, worsening of extreme chronic pain, and deaths of my family members and friends it totally crushed me.

It was worse than you think it was. It was harder than what I put online.

A huge shout out goes to my Ops team. Paul DiGennaro, Derek Price, Ginger Peterson, and Miranda Major (Check out her bookstore, Half Moon Collectibles in Nebraska, USA) . Also Kara Dennison Craig Cobalt, and the rest of the 145 members of my staff. And of course, the man who had to bear the brunt of every aspect of my mental and physical breakdown – my sweet husband James Harknell.

I still get weirded out that I can see, but I’m better at navigating it than even just last week. My face is starting to look like me again.

Imagine if you all of a suddenly didn’t recognize who you saw in the mirror after a surgery. That’s why most of the pictures you see of me for all of 2016 are old or me with sunglasses on. I had NO IDEA that my entire life I didn’t really know what I looked like. I did, of course but also I didn’t. Then – HD ME IN MY FACE.

I just couldn’t recognize myself. It felt like I had been killed or changed and it was upsetting.

And my chronic pain condition got worse. It’s always been bad but I guess age 30 is when things start no longer being something you can ignore. I am heartened that I have a doctor that will try some things to get me a diagnosis and some help.

Now that I feel like me the only thing in my way of making art is time. I’m 3 weeks out from Intervention 7, which I hope you’ll come say hi to me at, because I do need your support now more than ever. My days are packed.

I haven’t felt this good since 2 or 3 years ago when my eyes started to finally deteriorate. I’m able to talk to people again. My anxiety is lower. I can think straight. I used to get anxiety leaving my apartment because I had to drive while blind. I did that for almost 15 years. Blind AF. Drive anyway. How else would I get a paycheck, I ask you? There’s no public transportation to where the jobs are here.

It’s surprisingly easy to understand what’s going on around me now. I can read street signs so I don’t have to rely on the bizarre counting method I used to use to estimate distances. If I drop something I quickly pick it up and remain calm. I don’t freak out inside like if the world is ending.

It’s like I’ve been tuned up and let out of my box like the Terminator.

It feels good to be back and to feel like myself again. Brace yourself. It’s going to be a great year.