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 Marriage tips on my 10 year anniversary

Today I have been married to Harknell for 10 years.

Here are the best tips for marriage that I can think of in my personal opinion:

1. Don’t get married for the wrong reasons and settle for a jackass.

There are a lot of bad reasons that people get married. Concerns over being too old, concerns no one better is out there, or simply idiot rutting in a night club. These situations ultimately lead to relationships that aren’t sustainable.

You have to be on the same page for what you want in life and be ready to fight for whatever that is together. Your spouse should be just as good of a best friend as a spouse. When I am working long hours he’s doing our laundry and making dinner. When he’s working, I make dinner.

(I don’t do laundry. I ruin laundry. Trust me. I’m not allowed to do laundry anymore.)

Harknell and I each have the exact same priority – to help each other become better and to make art and events that help people. We also really like theme parks.

2. Looks aren’t everything.

Let’s be honest, guys. Everyone farts. Everyone gets sick. If you can’t bear to look at your spouse when they aren’t wearing $700 jeans or in a full face of makeup or whatever then that’s really the opposite of my reality.

3. Realize that you can’t change anything so you’d better love it.

One of the things we used to argue about was organization. I am very neat, Harknell manages his work with piles of paper from hell in boxes that I hate. After a certain point I didn’t get mad about it and it actually became something that made me laugh. It’s one of the reasons that I tell him that he, “…is a shit.”

Which he’s now adopted this phrase for me because I leave my shoes all over one area of the hallway.

Next thing we know we somehow turned the word “shit” into a term of endearment.

I realized that this was him. It wasn’t changing. Here, have your own area for your box piles and just keep it away from mine. These kinds of “annoying quirks” that I see some people focusing on in their relationships actually became bits of us that we use as an excuse to act like 5 year olds. Which brings me to my next point:

4. Argue well.

Harknell: “Move your shoes from the hallway.”

Me: “That wasn’t me, that was you.”

Harknell: “No, it’s you!”

Me: “No, you!”

Harknell: “No, you!”

Me: “No, you!”

Harknell: “No, you!”


We never argue because the way that we argue is so stupid that neither of us can take it seriously. It’s really hard to get mad when someone says in a funny voice, “You is a shit!”. In fact, usually laughter is the first reaction. Zero times would either of us do something mean to the other person unless you count passing loud gas in the middle of a conversation.

You basically have to love not just the good parts but the stupid parts.

Marriage isn’t about the good times. It’s about loving stupid shit.


 2nd track off of The Life and Times of Scrooge McDuck – TUOMAS HOLOPAINEN (Nightwish) – The Last Sled (OFFICIAL LYRIC VIDEO)

It’s out April 15th.


 Happy Birthday to me and thank you guys!

My birthday is tomorrow. Thank you guys who bought things from my wishlist! I don’t know if it’s OK to post your names so I won’t until you tell me otherwise.

Thank you to my friend from Canada who got me the Italian Moka pot. My Hello Kitty cup is full of caffeine!

I don’t really have family, so it means a lot that you all consider me a part of yours. I try and be entertaining so that hopefully your day/week is made easier.

I went to Whole Foods and bought myself some birthday cupcakes to share:

The bunny on the left is already tore up from partay. He’s all ARRRGGHURHRHGFHG!!!! I don’t know why the people at Whole Foods can make such cute cupcakes and pack them like a 1960s telephone booth. But I DON’T CARE THIS IS AWESOME!

I bought some hemp hearts, too. I’ll be using these in my smoothies.

My new Vitamix blender (which I have named Jack Burton), will be making many a smoothie for me. The blender was an anniversary gift from the husband. My anniversary is next week! Spring is like, the busy time I guess.

Anyway, I’d like to take his time to thank all of you for believing in me. I couldn’t have come this far without you guys. Your support truly means a lot in my journey. I am grateful to have the opportunity to do hard work and make your day just a little bit better in the process. :)

As always, if you’d like to support my work, buy something from my shop, donate to my convention, or just simply share my blog with a friend so that I can grow what I’m doing You guys are the best! :)


 Star Trek: TNG Worf: Cupcakes’plah!

I did it. Click for larger:

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 I met more Busch Gardens Williamsburg Ambassador Bloggers

Thanks to Adventures of a Frugal Mom for the shout out. She’s got a great post about the Ambassador Blogger program I got to be a part of over here. Also Sandy did here as well!

I didn’t get to meet everyone yet, but at our initial meeting I met

Krystel from Army Wife 101

Laura from A Frugal Chick

Williamsburg Families

Sandy from Somewhere in the Sand

Naoma from Ask Naoma

Kira from 757 Lifestyle.

Maria from Close to Home

I am so bad with names! It’s a new problem to have the internet name + real name + faces to match up. If I met you please let me know so I can get my head straight! :D I’ll make sure to walk around more at the next gathering – and take notes!

This is a huge honor to be a part of. I can’t wait to go back to Busch for Food and Wine and to meet (and possibly collaborate) with these bloggers!

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