16
Feb

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 Life with eyes = you can see every person who is trying to look at your ass which you never realized before

Yeah. I didn’t expect the last 2 years to be mostly me fixing all of the broken things on my body that I had to just ignore for most of my life. I am not sure you could pay me enough money to go through this again. I’ve been talking about this for awhile but this isn’t something you just get over quickly. I’m so happy that I am almost TOTALLY done!

I now have sight – and a lot of other things I’ve gotten fixed before, during, and after that debacle. Now I’m almost done with physical therapy. I’m stronger than I have ever been but I am still processing all of this. I work so much that I haven’t been outside all that much so I haven’t encountered absolutely everything in life post eye surgery yet. My last gig was so awesome that they let me work from home so I wouldn’t die in a car accident while recovering.

You start to go a bit nuts when you have to stay indoors for long periods of time and heal – and it’s not like you can stop working if you are in my position. During all of this I still delivered that amazing quality I’m known for. It’s actually EASIER to work now.

But I still get confused occasionally and I am still wrestling with how insane it is to get sight for the first time in your 30s.

Completely new relationship with the world. Having eyesight kind of feels like being a low level psychic. It’s easier to discover who the shitheads are.

I can now read facial expressions and can tell if someone is asking me how I’m doing and really wants to know or is just asking that to take up conversation time.

Understand the law of attraction

Imagine being an alien and landing on planet earth for the first time. That’s maybe (sort of) a description of what this is like.

I’m not joking, guys. Something “better” can freak you out if you aren’t used to it. And you know what? It’s weird for my family and friends too – many of them try to help me “too much”. For example, Harknell keeps forgetting that I no longer need a “Seeing-Eye Husband” and sometimes goes back into the formation we’d walk in when I was blind – until I gently nudge him out of my way. :)

I love that almost no one realized that we had a defined system for moving me around. It had 3 parts:

1. He’d walk in front of me and I’d track to his shoulder.

2. I’d hold my phone and he or an assistant would text me or whisper into my ear who a person was so I could walk up and say hello seamlessly. It was like I was an airplane with air traffic control.

3. I’d use my iPhone to photograph and zoom things so I could see them.

Any sort of change – even a positive one – opens the door opens to fear – to questioning what’s real and what isn’t.

Also you can see every person who is trying to look at your ass which you never realized before. @_@;;

What I thought the world was before my surgeries wasn’t true. The world is actually easier to live in than what I thought it would be. I struggle daily with the idea that I spent my entire life thinking things were a certain way but it wasn’t. I can seamlessly drive anywhere now.

I’m still processing it and I plan to go outside and experience as much as possible to get used to Life After Sight. And I do apologize that I am not posting anything super deep today, but I wanted to share one thing with you.

The older I get the more I realize that life is a weird cycle of gains and loss tied to if you are a positive or negative person. If you are positive, you’ll attract positive people and things to you. If you are negative – the reverse. The biggest thing to remember is that everything is temporary, everything changes, and the only thing that matters is that you keep going and seek out positive things because it’s the incremental contributions that add up to amazing things.



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14
Feb

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 Creative small business in times of turmoil: What’s the point?

I keep getting asked if people should even bother pursuing their small business goals in 2017 – a time when it seems that people want to consume creative works and new ideas even less.

In this podcast I talk about the role of the arts in society and suggest some ideas that may help you move forward.



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10
Feb

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 (Re)Generation Who Custom Name Badge Art – orders for my art cut off on Mar 1; other amazing artists finishing the set

Hi all –

I’ve finished several of the Custom Name Badges for (Re)Generation Who: Baltimore’s Doctor Who Convention. Because I have the job of actually being the Showrunner for the con (plus 2 other cons that we do) I have to recruit some other amazing artists to finish the set.

My commission rates usually start at $250, but for only a $150 donation to the operating costs of the con you get a unique commissioned badge. I will never offer this again. Everything has gotten too big and I have to step into a true directorial role. let my staff do their jobs, and can’t moonlight doing detailed tasks like this anymore. I wish I could, but I am not actually an octopus.

You can request any character, including yourself – as long as there’s photo references prior to Mar 1.

If you want a badge specifically done by me you need to buy it and request me before March 1st at midnight. After that you’ll get some amazing artwork but it may not be by me.

Here’s the one-of-a-kind badges I’ve completed so far. Only 1 will be sold ever. Check the list here to see which are available and to get yours! Do note that these aren’t good for admission on their own (otherwise I wouldn’t be showing you a preview) and must be combined with a general admission badge.

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Donate to support our work and get a unique badge here.



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07
Feb

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 REAL TALK: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

When very successful people like Maya Angelou, Emma Watson, Seth Godin, and Michelle Pfeiffer have said in interviews that they still wrestle with the idea that they are frauds we have to understand that Imposter Syndrome knows now bounds. It affects everyone no matter who you are and won’t go away until you confront it head on.

In this episode I talk a little bit about where it comes from, some personal experiences, and what to do about it.

If you like stuff like this subscribe to my youtube channel and blog – and remember:

It’s not about where you are. It’s about how far you’ve come. Keep going, keep it positive, and keep it real.

<3 Oni



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27
Jan

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 REAL TALK Q&A: Negative Thoughts: How to silence negative thinking about yourself, events, and life

The me of 15 years ago and the me of today would probably not be friends.

I used to be a highly negative person. For those of you who have met me in person this is probably a pretty big shock. My reputation today is that I can stay calm and polite in even the most stressful situations. My staff has in the past pulled me aside after a particularly rough situation and asks me how I didn’t blow up. Here is the answer. Today I’m going to talk about negative attitudes, where they come from, what happens when you are negative, and how I stopped being negative.

In 2010 I chose to put together a system to reprogram my brain’s default to be positive instead of negative. I gave it a duration of 3 years. A test. If my forced attitude change didn’t work to show improvement in my life by 2013 I’d drop it and try something else.

I am a huge fan of looking at myself as a social experiment.

How To destroy negative thoughts


I automatically assume I am a stupid asshole that needs to be observed and directed by my own self. This is how I’ve permanently broken behavioral patterns that weren’t serving me. I simply refused to become attached to myself and these patterns in the first place.

Not only did it work – it’s the main reason I’ve been so successful.

Understanding Negativity:

First let’s talk about what creates a negative perspective so that we can understand how to undo it.

Our perspective gets defined when we are young. Trauma and lack of support from parents, family, and/or school are some of the common things that can create a negative perspective. If we are set up to fail over and over again we expect to fail. If we keep experiencing trauma after trauma, we expect more trauma.

For example, if you wanted to be a musician and your parents simply told you that you may as well not try because it’s impossible and stupid they have set up a negative expectation. Maybe it won’t work, but starting a pattern of giving up before you start is incredibly damaging to a person’s life and ability to succeed and innovate. This can easily become the lens with which you view the world if you don’t take action to override it. These comments and experiences slowly filter through every aspect of your life until you expect everything to not work, give up before you try, and become a self-fulfilling prophecy that repeats over and over again.

The result is that the fictional parents in this example may have felt they were protecting their kid but instead prevented them from entering into a thought pattern that would have led to good behaviors that equal success – whether they literally become a musician, a corporate manager, or both. Our interests are varied pathways to many ideas and experiences. The worst thing we can do is shut down an interest in another person.

Fixing negative thoughts

How to Fix it:

The good news and the bad news is that the world generally responds to what you think and what you believe. The solution is simple but also probably the hardest thing you’ll ever do: You have to change “fuck this” to “Hell yeah!”.

My internal voice used to be a doppelganger for the TV version of Tara from True Blood:

This is maybe funny on TV but it’s not cool in real life. This is definitely not the type of behavior that gets anyone to advance in life. It only attracts more negativity to you and then the cycle returns and then you maybe die alone and no one cares.

There were some years where my brain would act like this but my mouth would speak in a more kind way. It was jarring. It was like my body knew what to do but my brain didn’t want to let go of the lens that trauma had created for me. I call it my nightbird because when I name a sonofabitch that means I can take control of it and own it.

I forced my nightbird to shut up with one simple step: Every time my brain would default to a negative statement – even if that was justified – I’d think of a positive statement related to the same situation immediately. Eventually my nightbird let go and defaulted to the positive programming.

If someone was driving stupid in front of me instead of saying “fn slow asshole!” I’d say, “This person may have been having a bad day. I’m glad they are able to go out and get their errands done.”

If someone pushed through me in a store instead of thinking that they should f off, I changed it to “that wasn’t personal – they are probably in a rush. I love their hair color!”

Even if someone is highly aggressive toward me I try to understand the pain they must have that is generating it and meet it with kindness and a kind thought.

This seems like some hallmark card bullshit but it’s actually just as difficult to change as it is important to change. If you want your life to be positive you have to act positive first. There are no exceptions to this. No one wants to set up their picnic blanket next to the biggest pile of dogshit. The only way I’ve found that works is to make it a practice to:

1. Don’t judge yourself. Understand where you are and what you need to change. Judging yourself leads to depression and weakens your ability to fix the issue.

2. When you emote something negative – IMMEDIATELY emote a positive in the same way. Make it a game. Cancel out your negatives with positive.

3. After enough repetition, this will become your true nature and you will have opened up the door to success and a better life. It works. I am your proof.

You are not where you are. You are how far you’ve come. Keep going and keep it Real.

<3 Oni



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